In-laws can be great. And…

Sometimes they overstep, or things can get a little awkward.

When that happens, you’ve got to make some decisions for your own sanity, and for your family’s.

Maybe that means skipping an event or saying no to that “all expenses paid” vacation.

Or when you visit, instead of staying at their house, you book a hotel. A little distance can work wonders.

All of this is totally OK.

It all comes down to clear communication.

Talk to your wife, see how she feels, and get on the same page.

It’s not so much about avoiding her family or stirring up drama.

It’s about both of you feeling comfortable and respected.

Of course, this goes both ways. Nobody wants to be stuck in an awkward family situation.

Setting boundaries with the in-laws doesn’t make you the bad guy. It just makes you smart.

It’s about making sure things stay healthy and that you’re not walking into a situation that’ll have you gritting your teeth for days.

Sometimes, a hotel room and a little space are all you need to keep things smooth (and keep your sanity intact).