It’s so easy to always point out what’s wrong.

But if that’s all you’re looking for, that’s all you’ll see.

The Gottman Institute - they’ve done the research - say happy couples hit a 5 to 1 ratio of praise to complaints.

For every one thing that annoys you, there should be five things you appreciate.

Five is the magic number to keep things from going off the rails.

Instead of always focusing on what needs fixing, call up (not out) what’s actually working.

So, give her a break, she’s doing plenty right.

It’s not about ignoring problems, it’s about balancing them out.

Next time you’re ready to jump on something, hit pause and instead find something that’s working.

Hit that 5 to 1 ratio, and watch how much smoother things get.